Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – paulcockayne3@gmail.com

This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above

This blog was previously at http://www.pcrc.berkshire-website.co.uk where historical entries from November 2008 can be found

We may suffer loss in many different guises – it may be the loss of a person who is important to us, friends moving away, kids leaving home, separation from a partner, or death of a loved one.

But loss is not just about people.  We might lose our job, for instance, or lose a major interest in our lives such as a hobby.  We might also lose an idea – a client recently told me about an aunt who was a strong role model to her as a child.  But as an adult things happened that caused her to change he view of the aunt – she saw a darker side of her – and the role model was lost, leaving her with many doubts about who she was and where she was going.

We can also lose dreams, or visions of the future.  For instance, some people enter marriage focusing on setting up a home, having kids, and bringing up a happy family.  But if they are unable to have kids for some reason, the vision they had is destroyed, and this can knock away a foundation stone and leave a huge hole in their lives.

I will expand more on this theme in the next couple of weeks – next week I will talk about why some losses are more difficult to deal with than others