Counselling in Wokingham – Difference

Paul Cockayne – 07791

This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.   This blog was previously at where historical entries from November 2008 can be found

I work a lot with couples, and when there are two people in a relationship, inevitable there are differences between you.  Sometimes those differences can seem very difficult, impossible to reconcile and can become a source of conflict in a relationship.

In working with difference, it is important to understand that as a counsellor I am not going to take sides.  I will not tell you that one of you is right, and the other wrong.  I will not tell you who should do the ironing, how often to have sex, or what time the kids should be going to bed.

What I will hope to do is to move you to a position where you can respect the differences between you and your partner, and to let go of the idea that you are right, and your partner is wrong.  In doing that you can move your relationship from war to peace, from a battleground to a negotiating table, from silence or anger to constructive conversation, from distance to closeness.

There will always be things you disagree on; that is natural and can be a source of strength for your relationship, not a threat to it.


About Paul Cockayne

Counsellor, musician, iPhone developer, games-player, cheese-lover....
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