Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – firstname.lastname@example.org
This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above. This blog was previously at http://www.pcrc.berkshire-website.co.uk where historical entries from November 2008 can be found.
Do you find yourselves arguing about little things? And does it feel as if you have little or no ability to change this? Does it feel as if your partner always starts it?
Does your partner always start it? Probably not. They probably feel the same as you do. Where do arguments start? Sometimes with a look, a gesture, a tone of voice – which of course we can sometimes misinterpret, and respond to.
Can you change the pattern? Yes, you have the power to react differently. If your partner annoys you, is sarcastic, criticises, you don’t have to respond in kind. You can ignore them, or respond in a calm way. It may not be easy, and it may not produce a calm reaction from your partner the first time you do it, but over time it will probably make a big difference.
Do you argue over little things? If you do, that’s usually because it’s in a way safer than talking about the big things. Counselling can help you change the pattern of arguments and, over time, be able to talk about the things that really matter in a calm and constructive way.