Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – email@example.com
This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above. This blog was previously at http://www.pcrc.berkshire-website.co.uk where historical entries from November 2008 can be found.
Is it necessary to talk about your childhood as part of your counselling? No, it isn’t. Counselling can focus very much on the present and the future, and my style is very much to follow my clients’ agendas, not to impose my own ideas as to what is relevant and what isn’t.
Having said that, counselling is about change – about helping you to change – and as part of that process is it often important to understand why certain changes might be difficult for you to implement. The reasons for this may lie in the present – in practical things, or in your state of mind – but they may also lie in the past, and so some exploration of your childhood may be helpful.
However, counselling is not an intrusive process; by which I mean that it is up to you what you talk about, it is up to you to decide what you feel safe to discuss – so if sometimes I might ask questions about the past, it is always with the understanding that you may tell me to mind my own business!
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