Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – email@example.com
This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.
Do you sometimes find yourself wondering why you do some of the things you do? Are there patterns in your life that keep repeating? Situations that you find difficult, that you would like to react differently to?
This may apply to all sorts of different things – drinking, smoking or eating too much, getting angry, withdrawing, spending too much time watching TV or on your computer, and so on.
Counselling can help you to understand why you do these things. Sometimes you can identify positive outcomes (e.g. “I smoke because it helps me to feel relaxed…..”). Sometimes it is about avoiding negative outcomes (e.g. “I play computer games because it stops me worrying about…..”). Often the positive and negative outcomes are linked with each other.
An understanding of your motivations is a first step towards change. What else, other than smoking, could you do to feel relaxed? What could you do instead of playing computer games to lessen the worry you feel?
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