Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – firstname.lastname@example.org
This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.
When trust is broken, the process of rebuilding it is a very slow one, and I liken it to a game a snakes and ladders – where there are no ladders!
Imagine such a game. Progress up the board is very slow, a few squares at a time, and then, with one bad throw of the dice, you find yourself at the top of a snake, plummeting back down to your start point, with a long, slow, climb in front of you.
Rebuilding trust happens like this – it is slow, one step at a time. If you have deceived your partner they will not forget about it easily, however hard they try. Progress is slow, and can be wiped out by one little incident – one small lie, one minor concealment – and then it’s back down that long snake, back to square one.
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