Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – firstname.lastname@example.org
This is a sort of counselling “blog” to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.
Sometimes it feels as if history keeps on repeating itself. We are unlucky in relationships, in work, or in other areas of our lives, and the same things seem to keep going wrong.
First of all, if this happens, be honest with yourself. It can, of course, be down to bad luck, but more likely you are playing a significant part in this – after all, you are the common factor in all the different situations.
In these situations, it can be useful to chart out the sequence of events, write them on a bit of paper. What happens? Who does what? What are your feelings during the sequence? How do they change? Then ask yourself which steps in that sequence you can control, and which you can’t control. It may be that to take control, to change the pattern, you need to make some different – and difficult – choices.
Counselling can help here because sometimes it’s very difficult to see and understand the patterns from the “inside”. Counselling can help to to step “outside” and look at things from a different perspective.
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