Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – firstname.lastname@example.org
This counselling “blog” is intended to give you a flavour of how I work. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.
The focus of much of my work, both with couples and individuals, is on relationships. It may seem odd at first to think about working on relationship issues as an individual but there may be various reasons for this. It may, for example, be that you need help dealing with the break-up of a relationship, or that you are facing a difficult situation and need help in coming to the right decision on your own – for instance if you are having an affair.
Individual work can be very helpful in such situations, or for instance, if you want to change something specific to help your relationship better, maybe dealing with your anger better, or coping with your partner’s illness. But there are limits to the work – in many situations in relationships it is important for both of the couple to make changes to change the patterns and interactions between them.
As a counsellor I will make sure that we continually review the progress we are making in counselling to make sure that it continues to be useful to you. For example, it may be that initially a few sessions on your own are useful, before your partner joins the counselling. I believe in adopting a flexible approach to such situations, to adapt to make sure your needs as clients are best met.
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