Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – firstname.lastname@example.org
This blog is intended to give you a flavour of how I work as a counsellor. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.
In relationships, we can find ourselves very bitter and angry towards our partner, maybe because of things that have happened in the past. That can come out in us being snappy, rude or dismissive of our partner. And of course that affects how our partner behaves towards us and so a vicious circle of negative behaviour can emerge with an increasing spiral of “tit-for tat” reactions.
It can be useful to make a pact – to agree to stop this. I sometimes suggest to couples that they pretend that they have recently met, that they are immensely fond of each other, that unhappy events from the past haven’t happened.
What this can do is to make home life more bearable, more pleasant, and this can be especially important if there are children involved. It doesn’t, of course, really resolve the past issues, but it can take the pressure off the relationship, so that there is time to discuss the difficult issues in counselling and to resolve them for once and for all.