Counselling in Wokingham – It’s safer not to change

Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 –
This blog is intended to give you a flavour of how I work as a counsellor. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.

In coming to counselling, in taking that first step, you recognise that there is a need to do something different, that there is something that you want to change, and that you need help in doing that.

Sometimes, however, you have been stuck where you are for quite a while, and may have made attempts before to change. It may be that you know what you want to do, but seem to find it impossible to change – like an addict trying to stop smoking, for instance. It may be that you are unhappy with things as they are but don’t know exactly what you want to change, or how to do that. It may be that you are able to make a change for a short period but then tend to lapse back into old habits, to go round in circles.

These situations can feel, in a way, safe. They are known, they are familiar, and they may be easier, more comfortable than the alternative. Most people find change a bit scary; coming to counselling can help you to explore what the blocks are for you, what stops you changing, and maybe to identify some small steps you can take that can make it easier to move on to the bigger changes you want.

About Paul Cockayne

Counsellor, musician, iPhone developer, games-player, cheese-lover....
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