Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – paulcockayne3@gmail.com
This blog is intended to give you a flavour of how I work as a counsellor. You can find more information about me by clicking one of the links above.

Sometimes we all need to cheer ourselves up and we all have different ways of doing that. Perhaps a bar of chocolate, or a cigarette can help; perhaps it’s nice to talk to a friend or relative; or for you a long hot bath or a workout at the gym may do the trick. There are hundreds of different ways of giving yourself a little high, and you will be able to identify what works best for you.

Unfortunately, sometimes these things stop working – maybe you decide to give up smoking, maybe your close friend moves away. Or perhaps you are feeling really low and a long hot bath just isn’t enough to cheer you up. These can be times when things get difficult for you – you may become depressed, or you may resort to unhealthy ways of cheering yourself up, like drinking to excess, or buying things you can’t afford, for example.

Counselling can help you to stop and think about what you are doing. Taking a more positive stance on life can be helpful – there may be practical things you can do to improve your situation, for instance. And thinking about the things that give us little highs can help us to find replacement activities if our usual methods have stopped working for any reason.